Children need routines and predictability. Knowing in advance when they will stay with each parent will certainly help them deal better with parents separation.
To make sure that you can spend the right amount of time with your children, increase their emotional security and minimize conflicts with other commitments, you need to plan ahead.
Taking the initiative and proposing a detailed visitation calendar for the coming months will significantly increase the chances of establishing a potentially optimum schedule.
Planning ahead can help you realize limitations and obstacles that are difficult to spot until you actually try to come up with a detailed parenting time schedule. It helps you confront your aspirations with what is actually possible.
To be able to come up with an optimum schedule, you need to make sure that your calendar contains all important events that need to be taken into account when planning your time with kids.
Finding the right balance between parenting, work and relationships with family and friends can be challenging. But it is always better to make informed and timely decisions based on mutual agreement than to procrastinate and keep coming up with the last‑minute solutions.
So what should your Mac or iPhone calendar contain before you start planning your time with kids?
Once your calendar contains all available information about events that affect your ability and preferences to spend time with your children, you can start modeling your preferred custody schedule.
In Alimentor, you can model complex visitation schedules using multiple recurring events. Keep changing recurrence settings until you are satisfied with the resulting dates and timeshare percentage.
To avoid conflicts with work commitments and other important events, review the upcoming months and discuss with the other parent how you can reschedule any visits that require individual adjustments.
When editing individual planned visitations, always check how these changes affect your timeshare percentage.
Be sure that your decisions have the best possible impact on your children's well‑being. Learn more about defining schedules in Alimentor ▶
Once you are satisfied with your regular schedule model, try to work out rules for planning holidays. This can be especially tricky if you are now in the process of forming a new, blended family. In such case consider holding a family meeting to discuss holiday plans together.
Sharing Alimentor database with your ex‑spouse and other caregivers (grandparents, babysitter) will give them instant read‑only access to your parenting time calendar.
If you are not using Alimentor sharing functionality, then once every few months generate a long term report containing planned visitations calendar and send it to the other parent.
Establishing a realistic parenting agreement can be challenging. Ensuring compliance with it is usually even a more tedious task.
To let you document and control the gap between your agreed custody schedule and reality, each Alimentor record can store information about both planned and actual visitation dates and hours. For the same reason, you mark planned events that did not occur (no‑shows, withheld visitations, missing payments) as cancelled, instead of deleting them. To get the complete picture use the disagreement flag to‑indicate records that document situations when the other parent did not comply with the established parenting plan. Learn more about tracking deviations in Alimentor ▶
If you are not using Alimentor sharing functionality, regularly generate and send Alimentor reports that list and summarize all discrepancies.